Today I had one of those days were I needed to shake those feelings that let you know the handbrakes on again. It’s often nothing major but can niggle away at you for days.

It’s one of those things that you just need to be able to call round a friend’s house for a coffee and say ‘I’m feeling like this today about……’

That friend today for me was someone who is often giving me credit in her posts, Miss Alex Tumulo.

It’s not that we necessarily are looking for someone to give us the answers but more that we can voice what we are thinking and hear it for the first time and respect their take on it.

Sometimes when we are attempting to make changes in our life it becomes very easy to become overwhelmed and start to doubt yourself and what you are attempting to do.

We can often get lost in our own thoughts, fears and self-doubts.

Sometimes what seems really clear one day seems a ridiculous idea he next and it’s often hard to keep on track and to remember why you wanted to make changes in the first place.

It’s easy to start too believe that the process of making changes doesn’t justify the end result especially when there is no certainty that anything will materialise or that its even really what you want, or more importantly, what you need.

At these times we often have a tendency to retreat or to try even harder to work it all out our selves, but often this just makes the problem worse by miring us in more self-analysis and doubt.

As counterintuitive as it may seem most change efforts end up reinforcing how a situation occurs.

However something that I recognise more and more, especially as I get older and people move away, settle down or in some cases pass away, is the importance of family and good friends.

It’s not always that we need answers to our problems, but more a place to feel we can go to have a trusting ear and an opinion we respect, even if at times it’s not always what we want to hear.

Often we take for granted those facilities that family and good friends grant us but one that I personally notice more and more.

It’s also easy all except that that’s just what friends do, but I think we sometimes forget what a privilege it is to have good friends that are there for us.

It’s easy to get caught up with the day to day stuff and especially the things we still haven’t got and forget to acknowledge the important things.

I also noticed today how easy it  is to say thanks, but often seems insignificantly, especially if its simple a texted’ thanks’ and smiley face combo when these friends follow up to check you got what you needed from the coffee and chat!

Hence the reason for the message now!

Anyway food for thought next time you are shooting the breeze with a good friend.