Our moments inside of emotional pain are often the best moments to understand who and where you currently are compared to who and where you thought you where.

Self development, like anything that has a end perception of ‘success’ takes a lot of hard work. The moments of ‘feet up tranquillity’ are far and few between, because there is no end point.

Just when you think its sorted and that you have arrived at your destination, that you’ve found your rhythm or your method which means its plain sailing from here in, something comes along to challenge you, to make you doubt everything you’ve done up until now and to make you question yourself.

Its easy in these moments to become overwhelmed, to ‘turn the table over’ and storm out of the room you’ve been striving to create, often over years and to never return.

However, its in these moments of often incapacitated frustration, anger and sense of hopelessness that offer a possibility to shed a light on how we can evolve and to really grow.

But where growing is involved we must be willing to allow pain to be our teacher rather than the enemy that we must close down and silence.

Easy in theory.

But theory in my experience predominately just sells workshops or at best, offers a very loose framework around how things really work.

It’s in the field, weathering those emotional storms that we learn practical skills, what really works and different ways to navigate ourselves out of painful situations.

And I know how hard it can be at these moments to sit there and be willing to be taught a lesson! So much easier to blame someone else and become a victim!

Its in these moments that its imperative to be able to de hypnotise ourselves from our emotional trances and to find ways to interpret their personal message about us if we want to truly develop.

Not only this, but as well as having a personal protocol that allows us to self reflect on what is always only an external stimulus rather than the actual cause of our pain, I believe we also need a way to release the build-up of stress and tension that self analysis, like any form of hard work, creates.

This way, at the end of each ‘life session’ we can drop any access baggage off and go forwards on our journey refreshed with an empty ‘neurophysiological rucksack’ ready to meet the next challenge a little bit lighter and hopefully a littlebit wiser.