Comparison is only useful if it’s for acquiring knowledge.

Outside of that it’s usually a negative force that takes our focus towards asking questions around ‘what’s wrong with me?’ or equally as detrimental generalisations as ‘I’m better than them’.
Neither of the latter mindsets serve in helping us to develop our own individual potential or the capability (or indeed the desire to do so in others.)

With the best will in the world, we all compare ourselves with others. We judge ourselves as much as we judge everyone else. However hard we try, we are always going to have an opinion.

However if we can use those moments to reflect and be conscious of why we are thinking those things we have an opportunity to ask better questions.

If we are falling into a state of self pity of self degradation because of what someone else has done or got, its worth asking ourselves what they are doing differently to us.

Some people are lucky, but most of the time it’s because they are just doing something differently to us, that if we are willing to spend the time, we can emulate and get similar results.

And not only this but it’s also worth considering the idea that ‘one aspect’ of someone’s life in comparison to ours doesn’t create the totality of their lives.

Even the most successful people are struggling somewhere, often in places that we excel in, or have total freedom from that particular hardship.

Nothing is in isolation, so it’s worth pulling back from tunnel vision at times of judgement and see the bigger picture.

In doing so we can ask better questions and create better mindsets and behaviours.