We can all find ourselves in situations that make us frustrated because things don’t turn out the way we initially thought, despite all the best intentions.
It’s not unusual to respond in a knee jerk reaction and throw the baby out with the bath water and proclaim defeat.
I am certainly susceptible to black and white thinking. It’s all or nothing, or as someone pointed out to me today, I approach a lot of things with a ‘shit or bust’ attitude, which is great in one sense and drives me to succeed in many areas, but it can also mean I miss a lot of opportunities for growth and development. Always focused on evidence of the problem rather than on the change that has occurred.
It can be very hard to notice changes within yourself. The same person that pointed out the shit or bust mentality, also was able to point out increments of change, that I think are insignificant, but are in fact very substantial within the time frame.
The irony is when I work with people, those increments of change that I miss in myself, are the ones I can see easily in others and get them to focus on!
It’s very easy to get despondent when we can only view things through our own subjective experience.
I have mentioned before in my blogs that it’s so important to get other people involved in what you want to achieve.
Not because you want them to do it for you, but because they can see your blind spots. They can also pull you on your bullshit as well!
Also with more people, there is so much more information and advice that can assist you in getting were you want to go and also to help you to keep moving when you get stuck in the mud of your own stinking thinking.
A lot of us, including myself, like to think we can work it out by ourselves. A lot of people I speak to think if they ask for help it’s a sign of weakness.
Asking people for help because you have a victim mentality or you can’t be arsed to do it yourself is certainly a paltry way to do things.
However if you do want to achieve something, trying to work it out all by yourself can often thwart your attempts for success. Success that is often just round the corner from where the towel got dropped!
Being able to ask for help to aid us in achieving what we want is a sign of strength and intelligence rather than of weakness.
Having a goal or a dream is a great thing to do. Having something to aim for is invaluable.
What compliments these objectives is the ability to re- evaluate where you are when things don’t go quite as planned and then be able to recruit others to realign you and get you back on track in achieving what you are setting out to do.
It might take a slightly different path, or more time than you had hoped to get there in your original draft, but that’s life. And as this next article explains, it’s about perseverance and getting out of the suck!
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